7 Lap Dance Moves That Make Men Melt

Want to make your guy go gaga? It's not just about what you do in bed that counts. Sure, great sex technique will make you a star in his eyes, but knowing how to tease him will make you a legend. Don't believe us? In The Little Bit Naughty Book of Lap Dancing for Your Lover, real-life exotic dancer Rebecca Drury spills the seven secret — and really sexy! — steps that work on every guy, every time. You can thank us later.

1. The Grinding Circle
Stand about 60 centimeters (two feet) from your partner, with your feet slightly more than hip-width apart and your toes turned out. With your hips, begin to draw a circle, keeping your back arched. Now slowly bend your knees and grind down as far as is comfortable, then up again, continually undulating your hips and dancing erotically. It's really important to keep your back arched and upright. If you lean forward, you risk impersonating a sumo wrestler!

2. The Turn
As I've said, lap dancing is about showing off all your assets, so remember to turn around occasionally. For the best effect, turn slowly — your lover should barely notice. When you practice, work out which direction is most natural for you to turn in. And don't be overly concerned with how you do it; just take small steps and aim to make the turn blend into and become part of your dance. Keep circling your hips, and remember your arm movements. As far as possible, try to keep your lover in your gaze as you turn.

3. The Slap and Tickle
Turn your back to your audience and, with straight legs, bend forward slightly, look back at him coquettishly and stroke or lightly slap your bottom. I guarantee this will make him smile. Alternatively, still with your back to him, gently sway from your ankles, opening your legs gradually. Slowly, bend over so that your bottom is brazenly pointing at your man. Bend one knee to the side and straighten the other out to the other side. Glide your hand up the straight leg and raise your head over the corresponding shoulder to look back at him. Slap your bottom hard. Repeat on the other side.


4. The Lap Dance Grind
Gracefully dance yourself into the triangle made by your lover's open legs, and stand with your back to him and your feet together. Make sure you're as close to the chair as possible. Now bend your knees, keeping your back straight, and gently put your hands on your partner's knees. Lower your bottom toward his lap so that you can just feel his crotch on your skin. Then, keeping your hands on his knees for support, grind down gently, moving your hips in a circular or forward-and-backward motion. Look over your shoulder at your man while you do this, if you can. This is a little tricky, though! Take extra care whenever you go near his groin. If you hurt him, he'll never trust you to dance for him again!

5. The Breast Stroke
Every woman has her own personal scent that collects between her breasts, no matter what size they are or what perfume she wears. It's a potent aphrodisiac. So this step is guaranteed to get your lover going! Move closely into the space between his knees. Standing with your legs straight, gently lean forward and place your hands on either side of the chair. Once you have a firm hold, push your breasts toward his face; his nose should be nestled in your cleavage. For added effect, try brushing from side to side and stroking the end of his nose with your bra or nipple. Keep moving in a provocative way throughout.

6. Knee Strokes
Facing your partner, stand between his legs, as close to the chair as you can. Place your knees in the space between his crotch and the edge of the chair. Gently put a slight pressure against his groin with your knees. Lean toward him and blow gently into his ear or on his face. You could even exchange a mouthful of wine with him or pour champagne from your nipples into his mouth. As a variation, try this: Stand up facing your lover, then catch one of his knees between your knees and gently rub up and down his thigh. This is a fabulous sensation. Ask him to do it to you sometime!

7. The Body Slide
Standing between your lover's thighs, lean forward and put your hands on the back of the chair for support. Put one knee on each of his thighs, then lift your torso, slide your knees into the space in front of his crotch (careful here!) and slide, slowly, all the way down his body until you're kneeling on the floor in front of him. To get up off the floor, use your lover's knees for support and stand up sexily — bring your bottom up first, then flick your hair in his face as you raise your upper body.

10 memorable tips to maximise a woman's sexual pleasure.

1 Take her off the clock
Just as you’re concerned about lasting longer, there are many women who are so self-conscious about taking too long that they end up faking orgasm or deciding to go without. The solution? Stop obsessing over orgasms - yours and hers.

A brain imaging study by Swedish researchers shows that relaxation is the single most important factor in bringing a woman to orgasm. Tell her she has all night. The better you convey not just tolerance for a lengthy build-up but also appreciation of her sexual pleasure, whether she orgasms or not, the easier it will be for her to unwind and explode. Oh, and studies show that it takes 15 to 40 minutes for the average woman to reach orgasm. Going somewhere?

2 Turn her on with your talent
The best sex starts long before the clothes come off. Talent - more than rugged good looks or a chiselled midsection - is a powerful aphrodisiac, according to research at the Kinsey Institute in the United States. (Less surprisingly, poor hygiene and a messy home are among women’s biggest turn-offs.) So perfect your karaoke version of “Paradise City”. Or make her die laughing at your self-deprecating show of atrocious dartsmanship. Yes, humour is a talent, too.

3 When the clothes come off, speak up
Women who worry about the way they look “down there” are less likely to orgasm easily during oral sex, according to my research. And a recent study published in the Journal of Sex Research suggests that women who feel embarrassed or ashamed about their bodies have less sexual experience and are less sexually assertive. You clearly have everything to gain with flattery. If you love the way she looks naked - and you do, right? - share the news.

4 Always be tender up top
During foreplay, gently brush the tops, bottoms and sides of her breasts; these areas are actually more sensitive than an unaroused areola and nipple. Gradually move in towards her nipples, paying attention to how she responds. As things heat up, the nipples will become flushed with blood and the sensory receptors will become primed for direct stimulation. You’ll kick-start the blood flow and lubrication down below.

5 Learn her key strokes
One thing many women love during manual stimulation is a slow build-up. Here’s how to do it. Lie next to her, lightly bracing the heel of one hand just above her clitoris. Now run your ring and middle fingers along the length of her outer lips. Graze the skin at first, adding pressure as tension builds. Cup the area around her clitoris with your palm to add indirect stimulation - most women are too sensitive to receive direct contact early on. As she becomes aroused, brace your hand on her mons - her pubic mound, the fleshy area that covers her pubic bone - and tease the clitoris with the middles and tips of your fingers as you move your entire hand.

6 Change your angle
Explore various types of penetration to figure out what turns her on most. Your first stop: her G-spot, located about two to four centimetres up the front wall of her vagina. This spongy region swells during arousal. Try massaging the area slowly with your fingers. A lot of women find it mind-blowing. Not her thing? Just move on.

7 Use moves that multitask
To maximise her pleasure, increase the amount of contact you’ll have with her most sensitive parts. Here’s one move that will drive her wild. Ask her to lie on her back, with her legs stretched out. Now climb on top. Curl your arms around her shoulders, supporting yourself with your elbows and moving your chest up by her chin. The goal is to bring the base of your penis in contact with her clitoris. Thrust slowly, focusing on up-and-down movement instead of in-and-out penetration. Another great trick: move your pubic mound in a circle or up and down against her clitoris. You’ll get a break from high-intensity stimulation and she’ll receive focused attention where it often matters most.

8 Learn to sense her oncoming orgasm
Ease into oral sex - don’t just attack. First kiss her inner thighs and her inner and outer lips, then work your way inside using firm, broad strokes with your tongue. Watch her hips for a clue to the rhythm she likes. Listen to her gasps and moans as you experiment with different techniques. And watch for signs she’s close to climaxing, such as a subtle deepening in the colour of her labia caused by increased blood flow. Or rest a hand on her stomach and feel for the muscular contractions that immediately precede her orgasm.

9 Follow her lead
Once you reach your point of no return, you’ll climax even if you’re interrupted by a tuba-playing, thong-clad Bea Arthur. But your lady could hit the “off” switch if you stop or change moves midway to orgasm. We love it when you try new things and it’s important to vary your technique, but once you’ve found a winner, stick with it until she crosses the finish line.

10 Let her finish first
Stalking the elusive tandem orgasm is an admirable goal, but many women - especially those with sensitive clitorises - respond better to a “ladies-first” strategy. If you rub the clitoris for a long time - during thrusting, for example - it can become too sore or desensitised to respond to manual or oral stimulation later. So satisfy her before intercourse. Bonus: a woman’s orgasm threshold drops after her first one, so it’s often easier to bring her to climax through penetration after she’s already had one. How does that sound for an encore?

Denmark bans smoking

Denmark has joined the swelling ranks of European countries that have banned smoking in bars, restaurants and other public places.

The Danish law was initially due to take effect on April 1, but was delayed until August 15 to allow pub and restaurant owners to build the necessary facilities for smokers.

The law allows people to light up in separate smoking rooms and in secluded one-person workplaces. Smoking is also allowed in bars that are smaller than 40 square metres.

Nearly one in four people in the country of 5.4 million are exposed to passive smoking, according to the National Board of Health.

The board said passive smoking was responsible for the deaths of at least 150 Danes and the hospitalisation of more than 1,000 every year.

Ireland, Italy, Malta, Norway, Sweden and Britain are among the European countries that have already banned smoking in public places.

Sydney eating joints takes out restaurant award

Sydney seafood restaurant Pier has taken out the top honour at the Australian Gourmet Traveller 2008 Restaurant Guide Awards in Melbourne.

Pier - owned by chef Greg Doyle - was named Restaurant of the Year, beating 400 other contenders reviewed in the magazine's 2008 Restaurant Guide.

Five Victorian establishments dominated the rest of the awards, including Melbourne's Rockpool Bar and Grill which was named Best New Restaurant, and Der Raum named Bar of the Year.

Three other Victorian eateries scooped the Best New Talent, Maitre d' of the Year and Wine List of the Year titles, with four other awards shared between Queensland and NSW establishments.

The magazine described Pier as 'sublime', adding its food, wine and overall service was "as seamless as anything in Australia".

The Restaurant Awards were hosted at new Melbourne restaurant, Nobu, co-owned by Oscar-winning film star Robert De Niro and celebrity Japanese chef Nobu Matsuhisa.

Negative result on foot-and-mouth disease in UK

Preliminary tests for foot-and-mouth disease on livestock at two sites were negative, the British government said, announcing that the risk of the virus spreading beyond an initial outbreak was now "very low."

Chief Veterinary Officer Debby Reynolds said further tests would be conducted to confirm that the animals on a farm and at a popular zoo and theme park did not have the disease.

The Department for Environment, Food and Rural Affairs, or DEFRA, said an epidemiology report on the outbreak "concludes that the risk of disease spread outside of the Surrey Protection and Surveillance Zones is now very low."

The government had previously said the risk was "low, but not negligible."

DEFRA set up three-kilometre protection zones around a farm in southeast England and Chessington World of Adventures and Zoo, a tourist attraction in Surrey, the southern England county where the disease was found on two properties earlier this month.

The suspected cases raised fears the highly contagious disease may have spread beyond an initial outbreak.

14 year old missing from Sydney hospital

Doctors are concerned for the medical welfare of a teenager missing from a Sydney hospital.

Dean Kharitou, 14, was last seen by staff at Westmead Children's Hospital about 7.45pm on Tuesday.

The teenager, who was in the company of his mother at the hospital, was missing from a ward when staff returned to administer medication.

He is described as being 165cm tall, of Middle Eastern/Mediterranean appearance, slim, with short dark wavy hair.

At the time of his disappearance, Dean is believed to have been wearing a blue and cream jumper, denim jeans and a dark beanie.

Information about Dean's whereabouts should be reported to Crime Stoppers on 1800 333 000.

50 reasons MEN have sex

1. I was attracted to the person.

2. It feels good.

3. I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.

4. It’s fun.

5. I wanted to show my affection to the person.

6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.

7. I was "horny."

8. I wanted to express my love for the person.

9. I wanted to achieve an orgasm.

10. I wanted to please my partner.

11. The person’s physical appearance turned me on.

12. I wanted the pure pleasure.

13. I was "in the heat of the moment."

14. I desired emotional closeness (i.e., intimacy).

15. It’s exciting, adventurous.

16. The person had a desirable body.

17. I realized I was in love.

18. The person had an attractive face.

19. The person really desired me.

20. I wanted the adventure/excitement.

21. I wanted to feel connected to the person.

22. I wanted the experience.

23. It was a romantic setting.

24. The person caressed me.

25. The person made me feel sexy.

26. It seemed like the natural next step in my relationship.

27. I wanted to increase the emotional bond by having sex

28. I wanted to keep my partner satisfied.

29. The opportunity presented itself.

30. It just happened.

31. I wanted to intensify my relationship.

32. I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions.

33. My hormones were out of control.

34. The person was too "hot" (sexy) to resist.

35. I was curious about my sexual abilities.

36. I wanted to improve my sexual skills.

37. I wanted to become one with another person.

38. I saw the person naked and could not resist.

39. The person was a good kisser.

40. I wanted to feel loved.

41. I wanted to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or special occasion.

42. The person was too physically attractive to resist.

43. It was a special occasion.

44. I hadn’t had sex for a while.

45. The person had beautiful eyes.

46. I wanted to communicate at a "deeper" level.

47. I wanted to experiment with new experiences.

48. The person was intelligent.

49. I wanted to keep my partner happy.

50. I was curious about what the person was like in bed.